Like death and taxes, being exposed to porn in some form or another (even if we aren’t specifically seeking it) is inevitable for most adults. Some people are devotees, well-versed in every episode of lengthy series like Jerky Girls, while others might be dabblers and casual fans of a wide variety of naughty films. But for as many people who have enjoyed and will continue to enjoy watching porn—whether regularly or as a passing interest—there are plenty who don’t partake at all, with some who are even outraged critics of those who do. Fueled by self-repression, religious furor, and lots of fear of what they don’t wish to understand (or wish to feel), what these critics fail to realize is not only how healthy it is to watch a sex scene from time to time as the many ways in which porn can actually save a relationship.
1. Porn is fun (and natural) to look at.
Humans been looking at visual representations of other humans having sex throughout our history. From the paintings, sculptures, and written material of civilizations across the globe, scholars have unearthed plenty of depictions and artful recreations of sex acts from centuries of history (and some not even just between two humans). It can be quite arousing to watch other people fuck and suck (and usually, in porn, it is people with rather fantastic bodies fucking and sucking), and porn can as quickly get you and your lover in the mood when you are not or heighten the mood you are already in.
2. Couples can be introduced to positions and play they might’ve never tried (or even considered).
If indeed you are enjoying pro-shot/pro-acted pornography (not there isn’t a market for amateur porn), you are watching men and women who know not only how to perfectly deliver for the camera, but are well-versed in a wide variety of sexual possibilities. Plenty of couples learn from these experts, emulating what they see. And plenty of couples get introduced to things they have never seen or tried before, but after some viewing, feel they might want to.
3. You can introduce your lover to something you’ve been sexually curious about, but haven’t had the guts to otherwise reveal to them yet.
Watching a movie like Golden Dreams might open a dialogue between you and your lover about those fantasies you have always had, or make them feel safe enough to tell you a few of theirs. Nothing is sexier than better communication between lovers, and a porn film often gets a conversation started.
4. Porn can help on those cold nights when your lover is away, or maybe just not in the mood.
There are plenty of couples who find themselves either physically separated by the demands of their jobs, not so much on the same schedule, or at times; one person might be in the mood while the other is not. Catching a dirty clip to fuel your self-tickle when your lover can’t be by your side to at least lend a hand, or their schedule sees them asleep when you are awake, can do wonders. You might even keep your laptop open to Lesbian Cheating Wives 2, so your partner can pick up where you left off when they have a moment for some self-love.
5. Watching porn can alleviate sexual anxiety.
There isn’t a human on the planet who doesn’t have some trepidation when it comes to some aspect of sex. It could be a worry over body image; it could be some hesitation over anything that’s not ‘straight’ fucking; it could be any number of passing worries, deep-seated concerns, or maybe all-out, sex-stopping fears that wiggle their way into our mind. Watching a dirty movie, either alone or with a mate, can easily lessen anxieties just by making us more comfortable with that which we all do as much as we are able… or at least, think about doing, as much as we are able. Allowing consistent and healthy visual stimuli to pass our mind’s eye, we come to realize how natural sex is, and how our bodies—even as imperfect as they might be matched against that of a porn star—were created with a wide range of erogenous zones that feel good to explore.
6. A healthy relationship to porn could curtail you (or your lover’s) need for extracurricular sexcapades.
Sure, there is a multitude of reasons why one person in a seemingly monogamous relationship might seek out the attention and affection of someone other than their partner. Indeed, watching a porn film—whether alone or with your lover—won’t always stop a wandering cock or pussy, but sometimes a little self-relief while watching a triple X scene, or allowing for some mutual viewing, might bring you back to enjoying a sex life that might be lacking presently. Just like sex toys can spark up bedroom fun, so can porn, and maybe keep either one of you looking elsewhere when things grow lukewarm, as they naturally do for most committed lovers from time to time.
From voracious porn viewing to casual, late-night, once-a-week explorations, however you and your lover partake of your porn, you can do so knowing that peeking in from time to time is perfectly natural, healthy, and damn good for what ails you and your relationship.
Ralph Greco, Jr. is a professional writer of blogs, reviews, interviews, fiction, poetry, songs, SEO copy, and one-acts plays for both mainstream and adult clients. His two regular ‘sexy’ columns: ‘Writing Dirty Words,’ and ‘The SEX FILES’ appear at sexpert.com and shortandsweetnyc.com, respectively. Ralph is also an ASCAP-licensed songwriter and recording artist and with fellow writer, M. Christian, teaches classes across the U.S. at kink conventions. Ralph and Chris also host a podcast called ‘Licking Non Vanilla.’
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