As a sign of the times or an indication of how humans need to keep tickling the outer reaches of our libidos, these days chastity play is on the rise in what we find online, in porn, and in couples’ real-life sexcapades. As much from ordinary make-out sessions where one person teases the other infinitum to a power-play dynamic in a BDSM scene, one of the easiest and often-engaged methods for a Dom to control a sub is denying them orgasm. Easy to execute and applicable for any gender, what manifests itself as chastity for many a couple is a sexual interplay many men and women enjoy.
Women locked into chastity belts to keep their virginity until marriage certainly has real historical precedent. And plenty of modern-day ladies enjoy being denied sexual pleasure from a barrier preventing vaginal stimulation. Still, it seems male chastity is most prevalent in literature, film, and blog posts. And although a hetero man giving up control or submitting to some humiliation from his lady is nothing new, chastity seems the next logical step in the male-submission paradigm. In the seemingly ubiquitous FLR (female-led relationship), real-life, or just fantasy exploration, male chastity is de rigueur, and often leads to prostate ‘milkings,’ creampies, and cuckolding of a whole different order.
When it comes to chastity, it does seem the sky is the limit in what can be tried when one person ‘cages’ another. Chastity does provide a unique mindfuck, for both the one caged and the one caging, and this is another reason why in this day and age—where mostly every whim we seek can be found, exploited, and indulged—something that engages the mind as much as much as the body is very appealing. But in the all-encompassing nature of this particular kink, caution must be applied, especially for people engaging in chastity over an extended period (as is true of any kink adventuring, cautions always must be observed). Men caged over a long time often find a certain docility coming to their psyche (beyond that need to have their prostate milked regularly). And often, the woman who insists on caging her man finds denying herself regular hard fucking leads her to take other lovers.
It’s no wonder the aforementioned cuckolding is one of the most popular natural extensions of male chastity. Here a woman domming a man can ‘have her cake and eat it too,’ taking lovers as she likes, enjoying regular humping, while keeping her man at home caged and suffering to her demands.
It’s never been quite proven (if it even needs to be) whether fact leads fiction, or fiction leads fact when it comes to porn. It certainly is true porn is one of the great survivors of the digital age, so that which happens online or off will undoubtedly be reflected in the dirty images and downloads we disseminate. Whether the sexy-hicken-before-the-naughty-egg is at play here, there are a whole host of websites now devoted exclusively to chastity as much as there are about any other kink pursuit. Mistresses, Masters, and even ‘amateur’ housewives use chastity as a centerpiece to their play, and many couples play around with orgasm denial, ruined orgasms, and lots of other games which impede our most natural urges to cum.
Whether women bound with a Magic Wand applied to their genitals at the lowest and most unnerving speed, kept just on the precipice of cumming, or a man locked in a cock cage for a lifetime, consistently subjected to lick up after his wife and her lover… for many, chastity fits their sex-positive play like a glove. Or, more precisely, like a cage.